Please help me, I’m 31 she is 29 and we are married for 7 years with 2 daughters.
I noticed that my sex drive has declined significantly in the last two years.
It could be stress although it was bad also on times when I wasn’t stressed.
I ran a blood test and my testosterone levels are even a bit above average.
Other than the low sex drive, since the first pregnancy my wife’s body has gotten much less attractive than it was back in the day when I also had crazy high sex drive due to being very young.
I’m having a very hard time getting over this, especially the small saggy breasts that used to be those perky c cups back then and used to attract me into sexual activity all the time.
Now, the breasts are not only not attractive but actually getting me repulsed (sorry if it sounds harsh but I can’t blame my mind/hormones for what they feel when seeing it).
We have talked about it openly (not about the fact that this is one of the major low interest in sex catalysts) but about the fact that her breasts bother her also.
She even suggested to get a breast lift/fill and I have told her that I would never want her to do that for me but she said that she wanted it BUT she wants at least two more kids (one of them very soon) and she will probably have to go through the lift/fill again after the next pregnancy
So right now the bottom line is that I have no interest in having sex with her and she gets mad at me for not taking care of this as she suggested to go to marriage counseling.
The thing is that I know the main reason for my low sexual interest but the last thing that I want to do is tell her that it’s because of her body which is something that she can’t change right now (as mentioned above).
Any suggestions please?